10 Categories to Focus on What You Can Control
Focusing on what you can control is not rugged individualism nor selfishness nor caring only about a very small circle or very narrow window. It’s not about circling the wagons, building the wall, or chasing the myth of self-made.
Rather, focusing on what you can control is more like what we mean when we say “be the change you wish to see in the world.” It’s about finding your connection to the whole and finding the place where you can and desire to make an impact. Your impact can be on yourself and immediate family and friends, or it can be on your community, clients, or The World.
Rather, focusing on what you can control is more like what we mean when we say “be the change you wish to see in the world.” It’s about finding your connection to the whole and finding the place where you can and desire to make an impact. Your impact can be on yourself and immediate family and friends, or it can be on your community, clients, or The World.
1. Your Time
One of the most liberating moments in your life is the moment you realize that you control your time.
2. Your Money
Real estate agents, mortgage brokers, and Car Salesmen don't have your best interests in mind. You be the one to decide what you can afford.
Money is a story.
3. Your Circle of People
– Jim Rohn
My path, as well as yours, has been littered with people moaning about their job, the boss, the teacher, their wife, money, the government, and their various physical problems. Problems, problems, problems, and always someone else’s fault. Each of them blaming others and trying to park me with them at the corner of bitch and moan.
It goes the other way also. Fill your circle with people you admire, find interesting, make you feel good, and push you to be better. Borrow other's belief until you believe it yourself.
4. Your Health
It’s not your parent's and ancestors’ fault, it’s not your doctor’s fault, it’s not the system’s fault (ok, it is a little bit the system's fault), and for sure it’s not the government’s fault.
It’s the things you do regularly, not occasionally that make the difference. Forget about Thanksgiving and birthday dinners or vacations. Work on what you eat and how you move every day.
Your health = genetics + what you eat + how you move
You control 2/3 of that equation.
5. Your Self Talk
6. Your Gratitude
The beauty of intentional gratitude is that it makes your life better without having anything externally change.
7. Your Activities and Actions
Don't wait till you're ready. The best time to get started was yesterday. Today is the second best time.
Get uncomfortable.
You are what you do.
8. Your Professional Development
Science, skill sets, tools, methodologies, and philosophies are fluid and ever-changing. It’s your job to keep up. But you don’t keep up just to know the lingo and talk a good game. You keep up to discern progress in your field from bullshit. That’s where the usefulness of your experience comes to fruition, and that’s how you maintain your value. You employ progress. You eschew bullshit.
9. Your Belief and Attitude
Always know where you are in Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, and never beat yourself up for focusing on that level.
10. Your Definition of Success
The Only Thing to Fear is…Not Doing Anything.
If goals aren't your motivating thing, then pursue growth instead.
Everything you want is just outside your comfort zone.
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