Don't be happy

We can learn to cultivate the process of happiness. We can get to happy at any given moment, from within. But feeling happy is different from the process of becoming a happy person.

Obtaining things gives us a brief high that you could associate with being happy. But it isn't true happiness. Buying or getting a thing is a buzz or a high.

We can't obtain happiness by driving to it. It's not at the end of some trip or process. It is the process.

Happiness can be found inside of sadness, depending on how you look at it. The happy process is often filled with sadness.

We cannot assume happiness should be our default state. It isn't how we should feel all the time.

Through the process of being happy, we will experience ups and downs and everything in between. We want a baseline that is an elevated state but we can't expect to be happy all the time.

We cannot expect to get to happy. We cannot expect we will become happy if we do or say something. We cannot expect we will be happy because we want to be happy.