Fear: Caught Between Want and Action. (4 min 18 sec)
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Feeling conflicted leads to fear, anger, and unpredictable behavior.
1. Fear is always a sign of strain arising whenever what you want conflicts with what you do
Takeaway: Fear occurs when there's a conflict between what you desire and what you actually do.
2. This happens in two ways.
There are two main ways this conflict can happen.
First, you choose to do conflicting things, either simultaneously or successively. This produces conflicted behavior, which is intolerable to you because the part of the mind that wants to do something else is outraged.
Takeaway: The first way is when you try to do two different things at the same time or one after the other. This creates inner conflict because one part of your mind wants something different, and this makes you feel upset or angry.
Second, you behave as you think you should, but without entirely wanting to do so. This produces consistent behavior but entails great strain.
Takeaway: The second way is when you do something because you think you should, even if you don't really want to. This creates stress and tension, although you're acting consistently with what you believe is right.
3. In both cases, the mind and the behavior are out of accord, resulting in a situation in which you are doing what you do not wholly want to do.
Takeaway: In both situations, your mind and your actions don't match up, so you end up doing something that you don't truly want to do.
4. This arouses a sense of coercion that usually produces rage (the eruption) and projection is likely to follow.
Takeaway: This leads you to feelings of being forced or pressured, which results in anger or outbursts. Sometimes, you even try to blame others for your feelings.
5. Wherever there is fear, it is because you have not made up your mind.
Takeaway: Fear happens when you're uncertain or indecisive about what you want or what to do. You can choose love or fear.
6. Your mind is therefore split, and your behavior inevitably becomes erratic.
Takeaway: When you're unsure or conflicted in your mind, your actions become unpredictable or inconsistent.
7. Correcting at the behavioral level can shift the error from the first type, but will not obliterate the fear.
Takeaway: Trying to fix only your outward actions or behavior may address one type of conflict, but it won't eliminate the fear you feel inside.
#thinkgod
I am sorry.
Please for give me.
Thank you.
I love you.
8. Examples of Want vs. Action Conflict:
The Dancer and the Stage:
Desire: Maya, a passionate dancer, longs to express her art freely and authentically.
Action: However, she feels pressured to conform to rigid ballet techniques at her prestigious dance school, stifling her creative spirit.
Conflict: This contradiction between her inherent desire and outward action creates internal tension and fear of failure. She experiences frustration, erratic practice sessions (erratic behavior), and ultimately, projects blame onto her instructors (projection).
Truth: In reality, the dancer and the dance are one. Maya's true expression isn't limited by technique. As Maya recognizes her oneness she begins to navigate the situation with compassion, finding ways to authentically express herself within the given structure.
The Gardener and the Bloom:
Desire: Liam, an avid gardener, yearns for a vibrant, flourishing garden brimming with life.
Action: Yet, he becomes impatient, forcing blooms by manipulating growth cycles with unnatural fertilizers and techniques.
Conflict: This disconnect between his desired outcome and forced actions leads to fear and anxiety as he worries about failing. He projects blame onto the plants and weather (projection), feeling frustrated and resorting to unpredictable gardening methods (erratic behavior).
Truth: The gardener and the garden are interconnected. True flourishing arises from understanding and cooperating with nature's rhythm. Recognizing this oneness allows Liam to practice patience, trust in the natural process, and find joy in nurturing, not forcing growth.
The Painter and the Canvas:
Desire: Clara, a talented painter, longs to create art that reflects her true inner vision and inspires others.
Action: However, she becomes fixated on external validation, chasing trends and imitating popular styles to gain recognition.
Conflict: This disconnect between her genuine self-expression and externally driven actions creates fear of judgment and feelings of inauthenticity. She experiences frustration, erratic shifts in artistic style (erratic behavior), and even projects blame onto art critics (projection).
Truth: The painter and the canvas are one creative expression. Such a recognition empowers Clara to trust her inner vision, find joy in the creative process, and let her authentic art naturally resonate with others.
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