Ghosted. (2 min 20 sec)

Ghosting feels like a punch to the gut, doesn’t it? Someone abruptly cuts off all communication, vanishes without explanation, and leaves you spinning with confusion, rejection, and unanswered questions. But here’s the reality: ghosting isn’t about the other person. It’s about you and the story you’re writing in your head about what happened.

The Reality of Ghosting vs. The Fantasy

Let’s break it down:

They cut off communication without explanation.
That’s reality. But your belief — the fantasy — is that they shouldn’t have done that. The problem isn’t their action; it’s your resistance to what is. You’re stuck in the idea that people shouldn’t leave without an explanation. But reality says otherwise — they did.

They disappeared from your life.
That’s reality. Your fantasy? That they should have stayed. That they should’ve given you closure. But the truth is, they’ve already closed the door — you’re the one standing there, refusing to turn the key.

There’s no response.
That’s reality. But your fantasy insists there should be one. You believe they owe you something — a reason, an apology, anything. But what if they don’t? What if their silence is the closure, and you just haven’t accepted it?

The Deeper Truth: You’ve Ghosted Yourself

Here’s where it gets real: the person who ghosted you isn’t the real issue. The issue is that you’ve ghosted yourself. You’re so caught up in chasing answers, replaying the past, and analyzing their actions that you’ve abandoned the one person who truly needs you — you.

Think about it. You’re sitting in the rain, wondering why it’s raining, instead of just accepting the fact that it’s wet outside. It’s no different here. You’re trying to figure out why they left instead of accepting that they’re gone.

And the rejection you feel? That’s the mirror they’re holding up to you. They didn’t create that rejection — you did. This isn’t the first time you’ve felt rejected. You’ve been rejecting yourself for years. Their ghosting just brought it to the surface. But instead of facing that truth, you get mad at the mirror.

Ghosting Isn’t Tricky — It’s a Teacher

The truth about ghosting is this: it’s an opportunity to look inward. It’s showing you where you’ve been abandoning yourself, where you’ve been seeking validation outside of you, and where you’ve been clinging to fantasy instead of accepting reality.

When someone ghosts you, it’s not about them. It’s about you.

What story are you writing?

What meaning are you giving their actions?

Are you willing to let go of the script and just accept what is?

Ghosting isn’t tricky. It’s simple. They left. That’s it. Everything else —confusion, rejection, pain — is the story you’re choosing to tell yourself. But the good news? You can choose a different story.

If ghosting isn’t about them, but about you, what story are you telling yourself right now? What would happen if you stopped writing the script and  simply accepted what is? And most importantly, are you ready to stop ghosting yourself?

#thinkgod
I am sorry.
Please forgive me.
Thank you.
I love you.