Relationships Are Not Static. (4 min 8 min)

Let’s talk about relationships — what they are, what they aren’t, and how we get it wrong. We’re going to use accounting as a metaphor because, believe it or not, it perfectly illustrates why so many relationships falter.

The Static Illusion: Income Statements and Balance Sheets

In accounting, you have an income statement and a balance sheet. These are important documents, but they’re static. They give you a snapshot of where you stand financially at a particular moment.

• The Income Statement shows your net income. Great, you made $20,000 last year.

• The Balance Sheet shows your assets and liabilities. Wonderful, you own $50,000 in assets and have $10,000 in debt.

But here’s the problem: these statements don’t tell the whole story. They’re static. They’re a moment in time, frozen, and they don’t show what’s happening beneath the surface. They don’t show the movement, the flow, the real dynamics of your business.

What does tell the story?

The Dynamic Truth: The Cash Flow Statement

The cash flow statement is where the truth lives. It shows how much cash is flowing through your business — how much is available to meet your obligations, pay your debts, and handle the unexpected. Without cash flow, your business will collapse, no matter how great your income statement or balance sheet looks.

Now let’s apply this to relationships.

Static Relationships: Income Statements and Balance Sheets of Love

Most people treat their relationships like an income statement or a balance sheet. They think love is static, fixed, unchanging:

• “She told me she loves me on Monday, so that means she still loves me on Friday.”

• “We’re in a good place now, so we’ll always be in a good place.”

But relationships aren’t static. Just like in business, life happens. Unexpected expenses arise. Debts come due.

• An argument breaks out.

• Someone gets stressed at work.

• Family issues creep in.

• A crisis tests your connection.

And when these things happen, you need something dynamic to keep the relationship alive. You need cash flow.

The Cash Flow of Relationships: The Holy Spirit of Love

The cash flow in relationships is the constant, dynamic flow of love, forgiveness, and understanding that bridges the gaps between moments of certainty. It’s what keeps the relationship alive and moving, even when life throws you curveballs.

But here’s the thing: most people don’t have strong relational cash flow. They rely on static promises — “I love you,” “We’re good,” “I’m committed”—without cultivating the dynamic actions and thought systems that sustain the relationship through hard times.

• Love is not a statement; it’s a flow.

• Commitment is not a snapshot; it’s a constant renewal.

• Forgiveness is not a one-time act; it’s a continuous process.

And this is where the Holy Spirit, or the inspired thought system of love, comes in. It’s the cash flow of relationships, the thing that keeps love moving even when challenges arise.

Why Most Relationships Fail: Weak Cash Flow

You see it all the time:

• A couple says “I love you” repeatedly, but when life happens — when debt and expenses come in the form of stress, misunderstandings, or disagreements — they have no cash flow to handle it.

• They rely on static love, expecting the “I love you” from Monday to carry them through Friday. But without the flow of forgiveness, communication, and compassion, the relationship collapses under the weight of life’s obligations.

It’s not that they don’t love each other. It’s that their cash flow game is weak.

Building Strong Cash Flow in Relationships

So how do you strengthen your relational cash flow? It’s about cultivating a dynamic, living, breathing connection that flows with love, forgiveness, and understanding. Here’s how:

1. Constant Communication:

• Don’t rely on static statements like “I love you.” Keep the conversation alive. Check in with each other. Ask, “How are we doing?” “What do you need from me today?”

2. Daily Acts of Love:

• Love isn’t just a feeling; it’s an action. Small, consistent acts of kindness, patience, and thoughtfulness create the flow that sustains a relationship.

3. Forgiveness on Repeat:

• Life will bring misunderstandings and hurt feelings. Forgiveness isn’t a one-time act; it’s a constant practice. Keep the flow moving by letting go of grievances quickly and fully.

4. Be Present:

• Cash flow is about what’s happening right now — not what happened yesterday or what might happen tomorrow. Stay present with your partner and focus on the love that exists in this moment.

5. Draw on the Holy Spirit (Inspired Thought):

• When you feel stuck or overwhelmed, turn to inspired thought. Let go of ego-based reactions and ask, “What would love do here?” The Holy Spirit is the ultimate source of relational cash flow.

Love Is a Flow, Not a Statement

Relationships are not static. They’re not defined by what someone said or promised yesterday. They’re dynamic, living connections that require constant attention, effort, and flow.

If you treat love like an income statement or balance sheet, your relationship will feel stagnant and fragile. But if you focus on building strong relational cash flow — the constant flow of love, forgiveness, and connection — you’ll have the resources to weather any storm.

What say you? Are you picking up what I’m throwing down? Let’s stop relying on static love and start building the flow. This is how we keep love alive.

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