Special Love Relationships. (4 min 19 sec)

Let’s start with the endless stream of disillusionment you see on TikTok, Instagram, and every other social media platform. People are fed up, exhausted, done with relationships. And what do these “special love relationships” represent to them now? Fear.

What kind of fear? The fear of being hurt again.

• “I thought I found love, but it wasn’t love.”

• “I don’t want to open myself up just to be betrayed again.”

• “Relationships are too risky, too painful. I’m better off alone.”

But here’s the real question: Is it the relationship itself that’s the problem? Or is it the meaning we’ve given to it?

Relationships Are Neutral: A Mirror for Meaning

Here’s the truth most people miss: relationships are neutral.

A relationship doesn’t have inherent meaning. It’s not “good” or “bad.” It’s not “loving” or “hurtful.” A relationship is simply a container — a space waiting to be filled.

The relationship says to us, metaphorically:

• “I’m neutral. I can only be what you make me.”

• “If you infuse me with love, I will reflect love back to you.”

• “If you infuse me with fear, I will reflect fear back to you.”

It’s not the relationship we fear. We fear the loss of control over the meaning we’ve assigned to relationships. We fear letting go of the ego’s projections, the stories we tell about what relationships should be.

The Goal of the Relationship Defines Its Experience

This is where A Course in Miracles comes in. It teaches us that the goal we set for a relationship determines what we experience in it. If your goal is to get love from a relationship, you’ve already set yourself up for fear and disappointment. Why? Because the ego’s mindset of “getting” is rooted in scarcity, lack, and separation.

But if your goal is to give love, to extend it, to use the relationship as a vehicle for healing and connection, then the relationship transforms into a holy encounter. It becomes a reflection of your true self — whole, loving, and free.

The First Five Lessons of A Course in Miracles: A New Lens for Relationships

Let’s take the first five lessons of A Course in Miracles and apply them to relationships. These lessons dismantle the ego’s projections and return the relationship to its neutral, loving state.

Lesson 1: Nothing I see in this relationship means anything.

• The relationship itself is neutral. Any meaning it seems to have comes entirely from the projections of your mind.

Lesson 2: I have given everything I see in this relationship all the meaning that it has for me.

• Every thought, belief, and expectation you have about this relationship is something you’ve placed onto it. The relationship isn’t inherently anything — it’s a mirror of your own mind.

Lesson 3: I do not understand anything I see in this relationship.

• The ego claims to “understand” relationships, but its understanding is based on illusions of separation, scarcity, and fear. Understanding comes from seeing the oneness in all relationships.

Lesson 4: These thoughts about this relationship do not mean anything.

• Your thoughts about the relationship—whether positive or negative — are just interpretations, not truth. They are like clouds passing through the sky.

Lesson 5: I am never upset for the reason I think.

• When you feel hurt or disappointed in a relationship, it’s not because of the other person. It’s because of the meaning you’ve projected onto the situation.

Fear Is the Projection, Love Is the Reality

When we blame the relationship for our hurt, we miss the point. The relationship is just sitting there, neutral, waiting for us to decide what it will mean. If we see it as a place to get something, we will experience fear because the ego is always afraid of loss. But if we see it as a place to give something, we will experience love because love is infinite and cannot be lost.

The Real Fear: Letting Go of Control

What we really fear isn’t the relationship — it’s the loss of control over our projections. We fear letting go of the ego’s stories about relationships because those stories feel safe and familiar, even when they cause pain.

• We fear letting go of the belief that love is something we need to “find” or “earn.”

• We fear letting go of the idea that relationships are about “getting” instead of “giving.”

• We fear seeing relationships as mirrors because it forces us to confront our own inner landscape.

You can’t truly experience love until you let go of the ego’s projections. Love isn’t something you get — it’s something you are. And relationships, when seen clearly, are opportunities to extend that love, to give what you already are.

Love Is the Goal

The problem isn’t relationships. The problem is the meaning we’ve given to them. Relationships are not the source of our fear or pain. They’re neutral, waiting for us to decide what they will be.

If your goal in a relationship is to get something, you will experience fear, scarcity, and disappointment. But if your goal is to give love, to see the relationship as a reflection of your oneness with another, then the relationship becomes holy. It becomes a space where you remember who you truly are.

What say you? Are you picking up what I’m throwing down? Relationships aren’t the problem. They’re the mirror. Let’s use them to reflect love, not fear. Let’s wake up.

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