1. How special relationships hold us hostage.
You know why special relationships – those built on conditional love – are so damn hard? It’s because we hand people these invisible scripts and expect them to follow along as if their only purpose in life is to keep us happy. Seriously, think about it: If you come home on time, rub my back, cook my food, stroke my ego, twinkle my toes, make love to me when I want it, shut up when I don’t, and shower me with affection like I’m the only one in your world, THEN I’ll be happy. What kind of madness is that?
This isn’t about the other person. It's about the split inside our own minds. We’re walking around with two minds. One is the ego’s mind – the one that buys into the separate self, the selfishness, the scripts. Then there's what ACIM calls the right mind – the mind of God, the one grounded in unity and love.
Most of the time, we're stuck in that wrong mind, running on autopilot. And we wonder why we can’t connect with others on a deeper level. Science backs this up, too: In order to truly communicate with someone, you need to engage from your right mind. It’s not enough for me to see my own right mind. I need to believe that you have a right mind, too. Without that belief, we’re just playing out these bogus roles and missing the whole point.
Here’s a deeper truth: I have to believe there’s a part of you that knows the truth. Why? Because if you don’t, then we’d be different. And that’s impossible. We’re the same. We all share that One Mind beneath the layers of ego and illusion.
#thinkgod
I am sorry.
Please forgive me.
Thank you.
I love you.
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