Things To Figure Out Before Getting Married
1. Whether or not to have children
And if so, how many?
2. Travel Together
Some people value travel more than others altogether. Travel can come in many different forms from luxurious to roughing it, busy and active or laid back and relaxed. Also, the stress of travel is a good stress simulator to see how you handle adversity as a couple.
You should have some idea of each others' religions. Some individuals don't actively practice, but may return to it for a wedding, or simply resume after a lapse.
4. Career Directions
If there's an unfulfilled dream that will require relocation or other potential upheavals in your working life, how will you handle it as a couple?
5. Living spaces
What kind of home would be ideal for you not only now, but going forward - is one a city mouse and the other a country mouse?
How are financial decisions made? Does each individual have some free discretionary spending? Is everything pooled or just a portion?
7. Managing In-Laws
How often do you expect to see extended family? Which holidays and birthdays are the most important?
Obviously, vegans vs carnivores can be a fraught issue, but also, how healthy do you want to eat? How much do you eat out?
9. Boundaries and Deal-Breakers
Under what circumstances would you marriage dissolve? Abuse and adultery are common deal-breakers, but there could be others.
If one of you should pass, would they wish the other to remarry?