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"Webbed in Ego. (2 min 26 sec)

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    1. A parent's dance with defensiveness.

    Child: I'm disappointed.  
    Mother:
    You’re what?
    Child: I’m disappointed.  
    Mother:
    Disappointed for what?
    Child: For you locking me out that door.  
    Mother:
    What door?
    Child: That door…for locking me outside.  
    Mother:
    I did not lock you outside.
    Child: Yes, you did.  
    Mother:
    I did not.
    Child: Yes, you did.  
    Mother
    : You have to be careful with the things you say because I did not lock you outside. I came in the house to check on the rice and I closed the door. Right? And you're right here where I can see you literally, right? The deck is right there.
    Child: No. Actually, you can't see me in the morning because actually, I was all over the other side of the trash can and you couldn't be able to see me.  
    Mother:
    I can see you just fine.
    Child: Okay, but I might get bitten by a spider and you would not see me. Because I might turn into a spider and web you up.  
    Mother:
    You want to web me up? You want to web up your mommy? You want to web up your mommy? You would do me like this?
    Child: Yes, but if you don't lock me out, if you don't close the door, I will unweb you.  
    Mother:
    Okay. I'm sorry. Next time I'll say, for the fifth time, like because I had already asked you like four times so next time I'll say like this is the fifth time for me asking you please come on let’s go in the house so I can check the rice. Okay?
    Child: If you say that, a bad word, bad like that, I will wrap you up foreber..you hear me…for…eber!
    The mother’s initial reaction is dismissive, repeatedly denying the child’s experience. Instead of acknowledging the child’s feelings, she clings to her own perspective. This creates dissonance, not connection. When we judge, we create distance. The ego loves a good argument.
    The mother’s attempt to downplay the child’s concerns with light-hearted remarks about “webbing up” shows a failure to meet the child’s emotional needs. This response can be seen as mocking, which only deepens the child’s frustration. The ego's need to be right is a roadblock to unity. Dismissing a child's perspective is a power play.
    The conversation ends with the child’s declaration to “web you up forever,” a stark reflection of the unresolved tension. The mother’s failure to truly listen and validate the child’s feelings leaves the situation unresolved. This is a missed opportunity for the mother to empower both herself and her child by choosing forgiveness and genuine understanding over ego-driven defensiveness. The real lesson here is that transformation requires humility and a willingness to see beyond the ego’s need to win or be right, a step the mother has yet to take.
    #thinkgod
    I am sorry.
    Please forgive me.
    Thank you.
    I love you.

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