10 signs someone's motives are insincere
- If they have a history or pattern of behaviour of using other people.
- If they boast about how they use unethical ways of getting things from other people. There is nothing stopping them from using the same tactics on you.
- What is your occupation? What city do you live in, marital status, the car you drive, etc
- What are your motivations? Do you crave status and prestige?
- Are you a rebel or a conformist?
- Are you a cerebral or an emotionally driven person?
1. Past actions dictate future behaviour
2. They're assessing your usefulness by asking pointed questions
These could be things that might seem innocuous:
3. Don't fall in love with potential
They make grandiose promises about how you will benefit from helping them without any tangible proof.
4. Don't court the flattery of others
Heavy compliments and sycophancy are red flags. Unfortunately, most of us fall prey to compliments and praise.
5. Validation / De-validation loop
I have observed that humans long to be accepted by others. As such, we want to have our beliefs and views validated. However, this can be our downfall.
Manipulators will often validate you about something you have done and then de-validate you about something else during the conversation. The idea is to gain leverage using emotional manipulation.
6. Consistently unreliable
If they make promises regularly and don't deliver, it is likely, that they are not genuine.
7. Once in a life oppurtunity or artificial deadlines
There is an abundance of opportunities and even if you miss out on something. It will eventually pop up somewhere else.