9 things you must Give up to be successful
What do you have to give up to be successful?
Success may mean different things to different people. And we might have various metrics to keeps score e.g.
- Our level of impact to the world
First, we must acknowledge that success is a journey, not a destination.
9 things to give up to be successful in life
- - Procrastination
- - Playing small
- - Ego
- - And even some part of Addiction.
1. Limiting beliefs
These could be beliefs about yourself or the world around you.
Whether you believe you have what it takes to be successful, confident, and fulfilled or not, you’re right.
Give up your self-doubt! In order to achieve anything, you must first believe that you can do it.
When you say, “I am unlucky,” “I don’t come from a wealthy home, so I can’t go this far,” "If only I had x, y, and z, I could..." you identify yourself with failure.
Empowering beliefs, combined with inner certainty, is the force that drives you forward when your brain wants to quit.
Live the life you want by overcoming your limiting beliefs.
Until we decide to commit to our goals, we only make excuses.
The problem with excuses is that everything you give as an excuse is someone else's strength somewhere.
"I don't have capital." Someone somewhere is working their asses off and doing big things while also teaching others how to "start from zero."
The first step is to become aware of our excuses and avoid making them because they close our minds and limit our opportunities.
3. Dwelling on the past
There are people who dwell on past glories and those who hold on to it to limit their progress.
The fact is your past doesn't define your future, the only thing that matters is what choices and actions you make from today forward.
Nothing stops you from learning from your past, but don’t let it be a stumbling block to reaching the goal you set for yourself and where you want to go in life.
4. Bad Habits
It doesn’t matter how “great” you are right now – bad habits can limit your growth and even shorten your life.
Everyone would benefit from making an effort to get rid of their bad habits. It’s not a one step or one-off process. It is something that must be worked on on a daily basis.
What bad habits do you have that is stopping you from reaching where you want to be in life?
For Hunter, it was drugs, that lasted for several years until he found his freedom:
“Days would turn into weeks as I would fade in and out. My reality had become drug infested hotels, sleeping in the back seat of my car, or random drug houses. It was a constant state of paranoia and psychosis...
I wanted desperately to be sober, but I just couldn’t figure it out. It’s like I was drowning and couldn’t get my next breath of fresh air. I would have periods of sobriety, but I couldn’t maintain it for long. I would often fall victim to myself.
I have allowed sobriety to consume my life like the drugs did. Even though I haven’t had to live like that for a long time, I will never allow myself to forget the pain that I experienced. It makes the life I have today even better. I wouldn’t trade what I have for anything. Family, friends, happiness, love, sobriety, and freedom.
Freedom is priceless.”
Successful people focus on developing good habits and rituals that keep their body, mind, and soul in check.
5. Avoiding Responsibilities
The more you avoid responsibility, the more excuses and complaints you make, and the blame game you play. This is a recipe for failure.
Stop making excuses! If you want to be successful, you must take responsibility for your actions and stop making excuses.
Quit blaming everyone and everything for your problems. Hold yourself accountable, and when you say you will do something, you do it.
How many successful people have you seen complain a lot? Limit your time for whining and surround yourself with people who tolerate minimal excuses.
Successful people realize early on that no one cares about their problems. If you don't like your situation, then make an effort to change it.
6. The need for approval
Sometimes we walk around wondering what other people think about us.
How about learning to make moves without seeking approval from anyone. The key is to learn to trust your gut and have faith that you will figure things out in the process.
Ask smart questions, make adjustments, and still trust your judgment without relying on external validation or other people’s approval of your choices.
Give up your need for approval. People will always have different opinions, so it's important to learn to value your own opinion over others'.
If you need other people to give you all the answers or tell you that what you're doing is right, then you set yourself up for failure. Start trusting yourself and avoid needing approval from others before doing anything.
In fact, when we seek approval from the wrong people - it can lead to them using it as a means to manipulate our minds.
7. The need to impress other people
In a social media age, it takes a snap of a finger to share each other's status and progress. We try to impress ourselves and even people we don’t even know.
Real success is You Vs You.
The only person you should be trying to impress is YOURSELF.
8. Fear of failure
Most of our adversaries to success are motivated by fear:
Give up your fear of failure. You must be willing to fail in order to succeed...
Take that risk.
Start that business!
Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear ❤️
9. Give up your perfectionism:
Perfection is an impossible standard to meet, so learn to accept imperfection and move on.
You must give up your preconceived notions of how things should go in order to be successful.