Choosing Yourself: Chapter 15: How to Be Less Stupid - 6 Insights

Has there ever been someone who, just by looking at them, makes you feel sick to your stomach?”

“Of course…I have a mirror.”

I'm not sure when self-deprecating - the tendency to disparage or undervalue oneself became a thing. I just knows that it doesn't feel good to me. I feel awful when I do it. Some people say it has its place but I've yet to find exactly where that place is nor am I earnestly looking for it.

1. Intelligence - storing knowledge. Wisdom - using knowledge - experiencing. My mom use to say, "boy you got a lot of book sense but you don't have no common sense."

2. The biggest barriers to choosing oneself are worry, paranoia, guilt, grudge, regret, resentment, and revenge. Man you goin' hurt your back 'Draggin all 'em bags like that I guess nobody ever told you all you must hold on to- is you.

3. Choosing oneself requires that you also begin to divorce yourself from your ego. Egos are never satisfied and they love to complain (about everything and everyone)

Wanting to be rich, famous, popular, known, or be seen as intelligent are the wrong reasons to choose yourself. Pursuing such goals is a train wreck waiting to happen. Have you ever witnessed an ego gone wild....one that has derailed and gone off the tracks? It's not a pretty sight.

Choosing oneself involves understanding what you are. Once we understand what we are we begin to make conscious decisions and choices from this newfound place. We replace worry with calm. guilt with innocence, doubt with certainty, grudges with appreciation, regret with acceptance, resentment with contentment, and fear with love,

4. Are we our choices? Are we our errors? Are we our mistakes? or are they just experiences that we have labeled as good or bad? Nothing is neither good or bad but thinking that makes it so.

Something like a fall in front of millions is devastating, embarrassing, and soul crushing to the ego but it's just a fall. It's a mole turned into a mountain.

5. Hint: We NEVER make our best choices when we are in a state of fear, shame, or guilt. Not only do these states feel awful, its our bodies signaling us that something is amiss.

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6. The worse thing we can have in most situations especially if we're on a downward spiral is another thought, another made up image in our minds of something we do not want. Negative thoughts look for other negative thoughts to join with.

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