How To Use Psychological Biases To Benefit Your Love Life

If you think one aspect of someone is good, then you will think all aspects are good. Example: If you meet someone and they are attractive to you then you think they have a good personality. This is because you want them to be good. But if they have a bad personality but are attractive, then the Halo effect will kick in and you will continue to see them as attractive even if they turn out to be not so nice.

We look at what others do and we do the same thing. So if it's packed into an elevator we feel uncomfortable but we get on anyway because of social proof that others have gotten on too. This can be used to move in with someone or get married or find a job or make friends or start a business when starting out.

When making decisions, we always consider the potential losses as well as gains. We don't like losing more than we like gaining more. So when dating (or any decision), ask yourself: What am I losing by NOT choosing this person? If there's nothing, then move on.

Anchoring is using an irrelevant number (like $10) and using it as a reference point for making future decisions (like buying something for $20). In dating, this happens ALL THE TIME! "He asked me out on Friday night." "Well, did he ask you out again?" "No." "Then he's not interested." Why? Because Friday was anchored in her mind as the date he asked her out and now that Saturday has come around she thinks he doesn't want to go out again so she anchors his actions with that date and concludes he is not interested in her anymore. WRONG! He might just not be ready yet! Or maybe he had other things going on that weekend which prevented him from asking her out again right away. But she anchors with Friday night and decides he isn't interested anymore because of that anchor point (Friday). She should've said, "I don't know". Instead she anchors based on an irrelevant date which makes her decide wrongly about his interest level in her now (Saturday). Anchoring is very dangerous when used by oneself about oneself! It's better to admit ignorance than anchor incorrectly about your own feelings/actions/interests/intentions etc..

If something is scarce then it's value goes up relative to things that are plentiful. This happens all the time in dating but also in other areas of life where scarcity occurs (i.e., jobs). If two people apply for a scarce job then the one who applies first gets the job unless there are extenuating circumstances regarding either applicant (one has family issues while another has great credentials). Again, use this bias wisely when applying it to yourself or others when dating or looking for a job or deciding anything really where scarcity might exist for some opportunity available to you right now or sometime soon down the road . As always...use wisely! Not everything scarce is worth getting excited over! Sometimes scarcity means something negative happened and I need to move away quickly before it happens again or worse yet affects me directly!. Use your brain wisely here as well when making these decisions based upon scarcity rather than just jumping at whatever seems rare and valuable without doing due diligence first .

Framing effects occur when two equivalent choices are presented differently such that one choice appears more favorable than the other choice despite having no real difference between them . Example: When looking at apartments online , does it say "$1200 per month" or does it say "$100 per day"? The latter sounds much cheaper even though it's