Inner Journey ( 4 min 20 sec read)
To be your own therapist you only need three things.
Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others.
"To my mind, empathy is in itself a healing agent. It is one of the most potent aspects of therapy because it releases, it confirms, it brings even the most frightened client into the human race. If a person is understood, he or she belongs." -Dr. Carl Rogers.
It means putting yourself in someone else's shoes and imagining how they might be feeling.
Imagine you have a friend who is going through a tough time at home. They might be dealing with a difficult family situation or struggling with mental health issues. One day, they come to work looking sad and tired, and it's clear that something is bothering them.
Instead of ignoring their feelings or assuming that you know what they are going through, empathy means that you take the time to listen to your friend and try to understand what they are feeling. You might say something like, "Hey, I noticed that you didn't seem like yourself today. Is there anything you want to talk about?"
Authenticity is being true to yourself and being honest about what you are.
Authenticity is not pretending to be what you're not or saying things that you don't really believe just to fit in with others.
When your honest and genuine with your neighbors, it creates a sense of trust and intimacy that leads to deeper connections and more fulfilling relationships.
For example, if you really love dancing but all of your friends are into sports, authenticity means that you are proud to be a dancer and you don't try to hide it or pretend to like something else just to fit in. It means being yourself and not being afraid to show your true interests and personality.
3. Unconditional positive regard. "Perfect Love"
Unconditional positive regard is an attitude of acceptance and respect that a you can adopt towards your neighbor, without judgment or criticism, regardless of your neighbor's thoughts, feelings, or behaviors.
Unconditional means your acceptance is not contingent upon any specific conditions or criteria.
It is given freely, without the need for your neighbor to meet certain expectations or standards.
Your acceptance is not dependent on your neighbor's achievements, behaviors, or beliefs.
It is given regardless of who they are or what they do.
Let's say you have a friend named Emma who is really good at playing soccer. You both play on the same soccer team, but in the last game, Emma made a mistake and missed an important shot. After the game, some of your other teammates started teasing Emma and saying that she wasn't a good soccer player. However, you decide to show Emma unconditional positive regard by saying, "Hey Emma, I know you missed that shot, but I still think you're an great player. You've made a ton of great shots in the past, and I know you'll make even more in the future. Don't let the naysayers get you down!"
4. The only person who is educated is the one who learned how to learn and change. - Dr. Carl Rogers
So imagine going through your life and you're able to offer a non-judgmental, accepting attitude towards your neighbors, regardless of their thoughts, feelings, or behaviors.
This is the only way to truly explore your inner journey and move towards greater self-understanding and acceptance.