It’s never too late to start again
My dad retired at 70. At first i was afraid of what he'll do with his life. But then i realized just like @BillBergeman has pointed out - he has grown wiser and better on most things with age e.g. appreciation towards life, patience, temperament and self awareness if I may add.
If you had a chance to start over – what would you do differently? Imagine you at 70 strong and active.
On one hand – it’s kind of scary. What would you be doing with your time?
For most people reading this – you’ll probably never retire from the things you love.
And if you get your financial literacy right – you’d be on the most rewarding part of all your investments.
The same goes with your relationships – especially your family. Your health if you're mindful of what you put in your body plus how you move your body and your genetics.
But no one can guarantee you – you wouldn’t feel like trying something new. Infact there are people at 25, 45, 60 that choose to venture into something for some reason or the other.
No one is exempted from this feeling.
- Donald Trump became a President and was sworn in at the age of 70 years and 220 days.
And if you want something badly – age is just a number.
Maybe you want to change a career?
Maybe you just went through a break up or ended a relationship?
Quit a job recently and want to go into something new?
11 ways to start all over again
- “What if I fail”
- “What if I suck”
- “What if they laugh at me?”
1. Decide where you want to be
The first step is to understand what's important to you, and then determine the choices and decisions that represent where you want to be.
No one can do this well enough for you.
2. Focus on where you want to be not obstacles
Focus on your desired goals, not the obstacles.
One of the biggest setback people have in starting all over – is thinking of the obstacles.
It’ll surprise you to know how many people actually go about their life without thinking about you.
Fact is no one cares. Yes, they may talk or mock you at first – but after a while people go about their businesses and problems.
3. Forgive yourself for any past mistake
Sometimes we’re stuck with past regrets especially of ourselves.
The what if’s and what shouldn’t have been done.
We pride on being hard on ourselves.
But that it doesn’t help either.
4. Take new actions in congruence with your goals
If you're not happy with where you are in life, it's never too late to begin again.
The only thing that can change your situation or give you a different result from where you were previously – is the action you take.
Take newer levels of actions and get newer levels of results.
“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”
5. Surround yourself with people that move you closer to your goals
If you needed to become President at 70 - its obvious you would start being friends with as much politicians as possible.
Speak their language, understand how they think and act.
It’s the same with whatever stages you at your journey now.
Practice the art of authentic networking – where you surround yourself by people you want to be like – but with one more touch that sets you apart – give more value than you receive.
6. Practice Mindfulness
What do you think contributes to bad feelings or even depression when people decide to change routes in life?
Apart from regrets and pain – it’s living in the past.
You owe it to yourself to savour every moment whatever situation you find yourself.
Embrace the pain when it comes and choose to use it as fuel.
7. Let go of the past
Whatever happened that you had to start all over - make effort to let go. You can always start again, no matter how old you are or how much you've failed in the past.
You can’t change anything.
9 – 10 years ago; all I dreamt about was wearing some white coat and doing abandoning all my hobbies.
Today am actively still trying to figure out my passions and gifts just like so many people.
And in my late 20s - creating a new business and lifestyle.
To start making a change, let go of certain assumptions or ways of doing things, to make room for new ideas.
8. Don’t quit, don’t give in
It's never too late to start again because you should never give up on your dreams. If you have a goal that you want to achieve, don't let anything stop you from going after it.
Sometimes posts like this make everything sound so easy? But it’s not, trust me.
When you decide to start all again – you’re going to suck. Give yourself permission to suck so you can be better with time.
A kid who’s been on the internet space and doing big things is going to make you feel intimidated if you decide to enter online business at the latter part of your life.
Unless you had been working on a skill in your spare time – most likely you’ll feel lost starting all over.
9. Get help
Most people need guidance.
At your deepest low - you may not even know you have a problem. You may just feel out of control.
It takes someone to point out your fears, limiting beliefs and help you get back on track.
10. Impact others
What would you say to your younger self?
What mistakes have you made that you wouldn’t want someone else walking your shoes to make also?
Create a blueprint others can learn from.
Every day is a new opportunity to start over. It doesn't matter what you did yesterday, today is a new day with new possibilities.
11. Embrace Second Chances
It's never too late to start again because you always have a second chance. If you don't like where you're at in life, you can always make a change and try something new.
It's never too late to start again because it's a clean slate.
There’s no right time
When was the right time to plant a tree? 10 years ago. When is the next best time?
You’re not too late. Sometimes you have to lose everything to gain everything.
You’re not too early. You’re very much on time
“Now” is always the best time to do something