Just the plain truth. (1 min 53 sec)
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1. "I am never upset for the reason I think."
The real cause of my upset feelings is different from what I believe.
My reactions are always triggered by deeper, subconscious reasons, not just the surface situation.
I'm in a meeting, and a colleague's comment seems to anger me instantly. I might think it's because of what they said, but in reality, my reaction is tied to a deeper insecurity or an experience where I felt criticized.
2. "I am upset because I only see the past."
My past experiences and memories color how I perceive the present. Sometimes, I react to current situations based on past hurts and fears, even if they don't directly relate.
Anytime I carry old feelings into new moments, it taints my experience of the present moment.
Consider a situation where my partner is late coming home, and I immediately feel anxious and upset. My reaction stems from past experiences of feeling being abandoned and worried when someone didn't arrive on time, even if my partner's lateness had a reasonable explanation this time.
3. "I am upset because I see something that is not there."
My mind creates illusions and misinterprets things. I get upset over something that isn't real or isn't as bad as I imagine. This underscores the idea that my thoughts and beliefs strongly influence my emotions.
I'm reminded about a time when I felt jealous because I saw my partner talking to someone of the opposite gender. My jealousy arose from imagining a threat that didn't exist, while in reality, my partner was just having a friendly conversation.
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