Love at first sight. Not so fast.
Limerence - the state of being infatuated or obsessed with another person, typically experienced involuntarily and characterized by a strong desire for reciprocation of one's feelings but not primarily for a sexual relationship.
1. The honeymoon phase
A honeymoon shows you what real love could look like if and when both parties are able to relinquish all grievances.
Working out the kinks is the way to fulfillment, happiness, and peace of mind.
2. Don't be fooled by the chemical cocktail. (Oxytocin)
In the brain, oxytocin acts as a chemical messenger in human behaviors such as sexual arousal, recognition, trust, and romantic attachment.
The butterflies are fluttering now but not so much a year from now.
When the chemical is present your default setting is noticing things you appreciate about your partner.
When the honeymoon has run its course you notice that something is off in the relationship. The things that once brought you joy are now the source of your pain.
3. Womp, Womp, Womp
The more unhappiness you project onto your partner, the more you will notice it being reflected back to you.
You are the one who punctured the balloon and let the air out.
You are responsible for all of it because all of it is in your space.
This is a time for healing, don't waste a crumb.
Focus on what you appreciate, not on what you despise.
Always endeavor to come from a place of love rather than fear.
Seek to join with each other instead of separating.
Open yourself up with full vulnerability instead of curling up into a fetal position and shutting your emotions down.
Appreciation is a derivative of love. The more you appreciate something, the more love you'll experience.
Don't sweat the small stuff and it's all small stuff.