Solutions to all your problems
I've observed a lot of people that due to their thinking and actions make their lives worse for themselves. In this list I'll list common problems I have seen and my solutions to them.
Hopefully these will serve as a basis for some new comics.
1. Everyone does't want to fight you
people that have been bullied or worse are super defensive. A misunderstanding often leads to them feeling attacked and so they retaliate, making the other person defensive until a fight does break out.
It's good to want to stand up for yourself/those you care about, but you should always assume ignorance over malice. Imagine that people are idiots, before you see them as evil. This gives you an opportunity to educate them, and who doesn't like becoming a little bit smarter? Instead of an enemy, you can walk away with a friend.
To Do - next time a situation makes you angry, assume their idiots and educate rather than attack.
2. The past is gone
A lot of people live in the passband when reality does hit, as it always does, they become crushed. This could be old loved ones, your old home, your old lifestyle ect. They're gone. Accept this and move forward.
The past is gone, the future is unwritten. Live now and work on increasing the odds of living in the best future. Remaining on the past is ok, but don't get lost there. Memories serve as tools they help us avoid bad situations, create great situations and spot the patterns that lead to each. What lessons can you draw from the memories you have?
To Do - Find the lessons hidden in your memories. Don't exaggerate (eg. it was terrible, horrific, the worst,) it is what it is. Take a step back view the event in 3rd person rather than first, pause the event move around. See it as a video game. You're god, edit it to how you'd like it to play out.
3. No way out
Some people don't see a way out from the situation their in.
Daily lists help. It get's you thinking outside the box. You soon see solutions that you where once blind too. Focus on what you do have control over, your thoughts and your actions. If you can't act your way out of a situation, you can rethink how you see it. Lot's of situations are made worse due to exaggerating the horrors of the situation or by inaction.
To Do - Write lists daily. Reframe your situation. Ask for help. What actions, if done daily would help you get out of the situation you're currently in?
4. Competing for the worst life
A lot of people exaggerate their problems in order to 'win' against others with problems. 'I have bad anxiety, I find it difficult to be in large crowds' 'Well I find it difficult to shop' 'You can shop? I can't leave my house' 'You can walk about your house ! I can't leave my bed'. All that happens is everyone ends up getting worse, in order to feel like the alpha of the group.
Don't complain. Don't one up on crap lives. If things are bad, seek solutions not a dopamine hit for being in the worst situation.
To Do - No complaining challenge. Don't complain for a month, if you fail start over. No Facebook statuses, no complaining to others, don't entertain thoughts that want to complain.
5. Inaction
People do nothing and complain how nothings getting better. Wishful thinking does nothing, you need to act.
If you want to feel better, eat healthier. Work out. Get outside in the sun. Hug others. A little each day adds up. Nothing doesn't.
To Do - Create. Work on a project daily. As you notice progress reflect on how the project makes you feel. Once complete, start something new. Creating gives your life meaning.
6. Fixed mindset
People see themselves as the same person they where as a kid. Weak, not very smart, cowardly ect. But their not the same person. Every cell in their body is different, they've grown. If they could see how much they've grown and how much more growth is possible life changes for the better.
Making a decision to grow allows you to have faith that things will get better. If you can't see a solution now, you will once you become smarter, stronger, more confident.
To Do - Read. Watch educational videos. Learn something from podcasts. Take notes every time you learn something new. Work out. Take cold showers. Embrace voluntary discomfort and build your confidence.
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