The soulful Art of Persuasion (book takeaways)
Book by Jason Harris.
I really enjoyed this book. It made persuasion seem less like manipulation and more like a better way of sharing good things.
1. Don't lie
People get a gut reaction to lies. It's not always obvious what the lie is, but often they can tell that that something isn't quite right.
If you hope to hold a lasting relationship with people, don't lie.
2. Stop trying to get people to like you
Be yourself, if everyone doesn't like you, that's OK. Do you want them to like you or a lie you've fabricated, pretending to be you?
3. Be a freak
Be proud of the odd qualities you have. This shows honesty and courage, two qualities everyone respects.
Become aware of how your actions are seen by others. How did they react when you did X? By becoming more aware of what others like and dislike we can prevent trouble long before others are aware that it's leading there. We can also create more happiness and as a result be more well liked by everyone.
Writing down will help you flesh out your thoughts.
(I'm only on page 27. This book is full of useful takeaways)
6. Role models
Collect role models and study them. What made them great? How did they get there?
How do they speak? What's their body language like? What words do they use?
If you'd like to know more about this specific item I suggest watching 'charisma on demand' on YouTube.
Even if wrong, people will pick whoever sounds more confident.
Develop habits that project confidence.
8. Stop using weak language
Don't use language that makes your statements weaker...
I could be wrong
I feel like...
This might be a stupid idea, but...
Powerful language makes you more confident. Weak language makes you weaker.
'people don't need reminding that you're intending to be honest ; they don't need to be told that it's you who's saying something ; and they certainly understand that it's your opinion that's being expressed. Who else's opinion would it be?'
Stories have the power to inspire loyalty, to take us out of the present moment and let us consider ideas from a fresh perspective, and to make us understand things in an emotional level.
Once immersed in a story you're much more likely to let your guard down and be more willing to change your mind.