Thoughts On Taking A Chance On Love
1. I'm not currently in a situation in which I have to make a decision
2. But I was a few months ago
I wasn't ready. And we probably weren't compatible because of big ideological differences, but we were INCREDIBLY compatible in terms of chemistry (I've never laughed so much with anyone).
3. Laughing together a lot is now part of my criteria
4. I think a lot about how likely it is to find a good match
On the one hand it's easy enough to meet a lot of people, on the other hand I'm not sure how easy it is to find someone I'm compatible with long-term.
I gave some criteria to ChatGPT and it estimated there were over 4 million potential matches for me in the world.
5. Part of me thinks one shouldn't be too strict on criteria and that it's not really about checking boxes
6. But then I also think it's important to be on the same page on a few core things
7. I'm not desperate at all, I've been actively avoiding getting into a relationship since my breakup in July, but for some reason I've been thinking about it more and more since December
I don't know what's happening to me.
8. Preferably, I'd like to be a bit more stable before it happens
9. Despite point #5, I currently see it as a numbers game and I think I should meet as many people as possible to increase my odds of finding someone I'm compatible with
Especially since I heard Naval Ravikant say something like "Go on as many first dates as you can, and very few second dates."
On the other hand, back to #5, many options can also be a bad thing. But isn't that better than to stay in a mediocre relationship?
10. A few weeks ago, I met two people who had vastly different takes on this
One was a single dad in his 30s or 40s. The other was a single mom in her 30s. They both had kids at a fairly young age.
The single mother told me I should have kids as soon as possible, that it's absolutely worth it and it's much better to do it while you're young.
The single dad disagreed wholeheartedly and told me to enjoy life as much as possible before having kids and to wait at least ten years.
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