10 ways to get rid of that nagging restlessness
You're lonely, stressed, restless, with an emptiness inside that reaches the depths of the molten core. It changes directions and spins every once in a while and you can cover it up with coffee, work, sex, food, plans, excitement, but it's still there--waiting to rear its ugly head at you when you stop being busy. So you never stop. You just keep piling on to it, until one day -- you take a second to feel it, but it's just too much--so you order another latte with a few extra espresso shots to keep your busy mind going.
Is this how you're going to exist for the rest of your life? Is there a way out of it?
1. Write
You don't have to write a novel. You don't even have to journal, but get to the bottom. What is wounded? What is hurt? What acts of service are you not doing? Dump your brain on the page. Don't let anyone see it. Peer inside your soul. What's at the bottom? Why are you empty? This is scary. I don't even want to do it, that's why I'm writing this idea list instead.
2. Can you be of service?
Can you help just one person today? How can you do that? Can that help ease the burden and stress you carry? Can you share your love, your knowledge, treat someone to a kind experience?
3. Find your spiritual center
Give up the chase. Give up the self-centeredness. Say thank you to anything and everyone...to that power beyond you, that helps you, that loves you. Merge with that power and be it.
4. Forgive yourself.
It's okay if you've spent ten years of your life not living your purpose. It's hard. There is so much out there, waiting to rob you of your attention. It's easy to just get through the day, numbingly covering up your depth by scrolling on Reddit, eating a gastronomic meal, swiping on Tinder, or even writing your idea list. It's okay. You can restart any time.
5. Text some friends your love.
Not everything has to be planned out weeks in advance. Send messages to people you haven't talked to in years. If they spend a week to respond, you don't have to do the same. You can respond when you're available and let them know they matter to you. Catching up and loving others feels good.
6. Spend some time outside.
Go for a walk, smell the fresh air, get away from the city and cars -- enjoy that pace, that sunshine, all that you get to do. Try not to be separate from nature, but be a part of it. What does nature want you to do?
7. Share your loneliness with someone.
You may know the solution. Share it with someone who might be receptive. Who might relate. Who might identify. Can you help each other?
8. Find the lightness in your feelings.
Don't take it so seriously. It'll lessen as you put your attention on the lightness and love.
9. Hug someone for 20 seconds.
It will help.
10. When that feeling returns, come back to your spirit.
Who can you help today? How can you be of service? Who can you love? If it was your last day on earth, what would you have wished you did? If it was your friends or families last day on Earth, what would you have wished you said?
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