5 Ways to Get Over a Divorce Not Involving Kids
My life shifted a bit over the past few years after going through a divorce. The marriage didn't last four years. Even with the short stint there were still adjustments that needed to be made.
1. Therapy
Therapy was an option at first. I tried to used therapy as a way of retaining the marriage after my infidelity. We had three sessions total.
The first session was a group session. We expressed some grievances. My biggest was she had been gone for 70 days with no indicator of what she wanted to do, but as the old adage goes "actions speak louder than words."
I can recall the therapist saying "that is a long time." The next two sessions were individual sessions. I'm not sure how her session with, but my session was liberating. There are times we need a neutral party for clarity because we are not able to see the real truth.
When the therapist said "Why fight for something you really don't want?"
Clarity was found in that question for me. I didn't need another session.
2. Meet Somone New
Meeting someone new did help me get through a difficult time. Sure people will say take time to yourself which is something I've yet to try for the most part. The woman I met was a good woman, but circumstances eventually shifted me away from her. At least I was able to see how I should be treated as a man even if for a brief time.
Thankful I got to celebrate her before things ended.
3. Block Social Media
No need to see the progression of your former partner until you are ready.
4. Logic
In my case it wasn't that long I had been married. My sister made me realize the logic that was really simple "You've been without her way longer than you've been with her. Give it some time and you'll find your way again."
5. Find Yourself Again
Finding myself again was important. There was a time where I made decisions basing them off a future with another person. Eventually I did begin to think of myself again. It may sound selfish but I'm thankful I was able to get back to being myself apart from what I once thought was a lifetime partner. The aspect of marriage isn't something I tend to think about anymore, but perhaps one day.
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