9 Benefits of Slower Sex

Imagine you have a delicious meal in front of you prepared by a five-star chef. Do you wolf it down quickly in three bites?

No, you savor every bite. You let it linger.

This applies to sex as well. You and your partner should have a five-star feast.

Sex isn't always intimate. In fact, it's very easy to become disconnected and use sex as a distraction rather than a form of connection.

When you go slow, it's impossible to not be intimate. You have to trust the person you're with. Because when you go slow, deeper emotions arise.

Sex is a release valve of many pent up emotions. Anger/aggression is one of the more common ones.

But if you remove that primal, animalistic side, what emotions are left?

With slow sex, it's usually gratitude and love. Sometimes sadness or fear creeps in, but that's okay. Because it's about intimacy and trust.

Sex feels good, right?

If it feels good for ten minutes, would it also feel good for twenty? How about an hour? What about three hours?

If you have fast sex, you run out of energy sooner. If you slow it down, pleasure can be extended indefinitely. Can you maintain sexual pleasure for five hours? You can with practice.

Some people like a bit of violence during sex. Kink is popular, but...

It's a slippery slope. Injuries happen.

It's almost impossible to physically hurt your partner in slow motion.

Orgasms are universally liked. I get it.

But the path to an orgasm can be just as enjoyable. With slower sex, it's not about the ending as much as it is about the journey.

Imagine it's your last day on earth. At midnight, you're going to disappear. It's currently 10pm, and you're with a romantic partner.

Do you want to spend those final two hours watching a movie? Personally, I'd rather revel in my partner's presence for two hours, soaking in every bit of her.

It's most likely not your last day on earth. But you still have a choice:

How do you want to spend your time?

I talk to a lot of people who say they want to meditate, but they can't. It's too boring, or their mind is too distracted.

Meditation is about focus. You can focus on the breath, you can focus on a sound, you can focus on something visual. Sex has all of the above.

Despite the sensual nature of sex, it can be a dynamic form of meditation with proper focus.

I don't know the science here, I only speak from direct experience.

When the sex is slower, the climax is much more intense.

Cool bonus.