Let's Do "The Work" Together
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I'll do all the heavy lifting. ;-)
The Work - Byron Katie
Q1. Is it true?
Q2. Can you absolutely know that it’s true?
Q3. How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought?
Q4. Who would you be without that thought?
Turnarounds
The Work doesn't work unless you put pen to paper. Your ego mind will hijack the results if you attempt to do this in your head.
The questions and the turnarounds are contemplative and require presence.
The answer to questions 1 & 2 are either a "yes" or "no" without commentary or the need for another story.
There are no right or wrong answers to the questions.
For more detailed instructions visit The Work.
The concept I'll be exploring today. "My son should talk to me"
- I distance myself.
- I think unkind thoughts about my son and myself.
- I feel guilty.
- I mentally attack him.
- I see myself as different from him.
- I feel awful.
- I cry.
- I'm sad.
- I justify my anger.
- I see myself as being right and him as being wrong.
- I compare myself to other dads who I believe are doing a good job with their sons.
- I sweep it under the rug.
- I pretend it really doesn't matter to me.
- I shut down.
- I would feel more connected to my son.
- I would love on him unconditionally.
- I wouldn't feel guilty.
- I'd smile more at the mere idea of his presence.
- I wouldn't attack my son or myself.
- I'd see him without my story overlay.
- I would express unconditional love toward my son.
- I would feel lighter.
- I would be free.
1. Is it true?
No
2. Can you absolutely know that it’s true?
No
3. How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought?
4. Who would you be without that thought?
5. Turnarounds
I should talk to my son. If I believe that talking is so easy to do then I should be the one who goes first.
My son shouldn't talk to me. Who would want to talk to someone who is being less than kind? I don't enjoy talking to people who aren't loving either.
My son does talk to me. All communication is not verbal. His silence speaks volumes. He is communicating with me but not in the manner that I have prescribed for him.
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