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I was talking to a friend who is in his late 40s. He said, “I just deleted all my social media accounts.” I was surprised. But he explained, “When I look at my kids I see them on their phones all the time. And I don’t want to be like that so I figured it was time to stop.” The same thing happened with me and Twitter. It became too much of an addiction and not enough of a reward for me to use it so I stopped using it for about six months now. It’s been good for me. When you are young you are trying to figure out who you are and what your place in the world is and social media can be a way of measuring that against others. When you get older, that doesn’t matter as much anymore. You know who you are, you know your place in the world, and there’s no reason to constantly compare yourself against others (which is impossible anyway). So why waste the time? There are more important things to do with your life than check Twitter every five minutes or post useless updates on Facebook.
When we were younger, arguments felt like they were life or death situations because we were uncertain about our place in the world and we didn’t want to lose people we loved or needed as friends or co-workers or whatever else if we disagreed with them too strongly on something important to them. As an example, one of my kids got into a huge argument with her boyfriend this weekend over his views on gun control (they both have strong views). She was afraid he would break up with her over this issue but instead he proposed marriage! He loves her THAT much! But when you get older, nobody gives a crap about what side of an issue you are on so there is no need for arguments ever again. This is why old couples can sit next to each other at dinner and never say anything the entire time they are sitting there together but then go home happy together anyway because they understand each other better than anyone else ever will even though they didn’t argue at all during dinner.
When you are young, everyone around you seems perfect so it feels like if you want any attention from these people then you have to be perfect also otherwise they won’t notice you at all (and maybe even ostracize you). But once people start getting older they realize that nobody is perfect and everyone has their own issues going on anyway so why bother trying so hard? Life becomes boring when perfection is your goal because it means nothing will ever meet those standards so why bother doing anything at all? And really, nobody notices if someone makes one mistake here or there unless it involves money because then people will always judge based on money issues since money seems like such a tangible measure of success (even though it isn't).
When we were younger we wanted desperately to fit in somewhere so gossiping was useful in figuring out how someone could be useful for us later down the road if they owed us a favor after telling them some juicy gossip about someone else (or even ourselves) that made them feel indebted towards us later down the road if needed by us . But now nobody cares about gossiping except for maybe teenagers still trying desperately to fit in somewhere before adulthood sets in fully and forces them away from their peers forever (which happens around 25-26 depending on how quickly one grows up). Once we start getting older we realize that nobody really cares about gossiping anymore because everybody has their own problems going on anyway without worrying over whether XYZ person cheated with ABC person ten years
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