MrOTG

1. Assume 100% responsibility

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• Be proactive(Habit #1-Stephen R. Covey.)
• “Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom. —Viktor E. Frankl.”

There are a thousand ways to present it, but they all converge toward this state of mind.

No matter what happens, I take charge.

Life sends us its share of difficulties, and we are not (always) responsible for them…

But we can interpret these trials in a way that helps us (and those around us) move forward.

1. What is the Upper Limit Problem?

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It’s a universal tendency to sabotage ourselves when we have reached a self-imposed mental limit.

We naturally have limited tolerance for happiness. When things are going too well, we build up negative thoughts to stop the flow of well-being.

• When everything is going well at work, we create tension in our love relationship.
• When everything is going well in our finances, we create tension at work.
• When everything is going well in [—-], we create a tension [—-]

Gary discovered this pattern on himself and studied it for years. And he gives us a method to get rid of this negative spiral.

“The pattern was simple: enjoy a period of feeling really good; then do something to mess it up. I also realized that the same pattern had a grip on the world at large.”

1. Calm

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You can observe the situation outside and inside. Writing and reflection are your allies.

By doing so, you increase your level of...

1. For a few months now, I’ve been discovering the pleasure of rereading books that marked me.

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Author Rolf Dobelli writes in The Art of the Good Life:

“The effect of reading twice isn’t twice the effect of reading once. It’s much greater—judging by my own experience, I’d put it at a factor of ten. If I retain three percent of the content after one reading, after two readings it’s up to thirty percent.”

1. "What else is possible" is a great question to improve your decision-making.

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How do I know this?

I've observed it dozen of times with my coaching clients.

"I hadn't thought of this solution until you asked me the question, what else?"

"I feel much more confident about my next step."

That's the sound of an insight.

1. And the turning point in a session is when a client touches it.

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--The plan that seemed hard becomes easy.

--The “next action” impossible to find a few minutes before becomes obvious.

--The lost motivation comes back as if by magic...

But there is no magic.

1. I see an analogy with the way we invest.

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For years I was afraid of the financial markets. So my refuge was safe products. (Like term accounts).

Like the competence zone, they were not good tools for my dream of financial independence.

I didn't risk losing but also didn't risk gaining much.