How to find your authentic self

Accepting and loving yourself is the first step to authenticity. Self-acceptance is a crucial step to finding your authentic self.

If you hate your body and go to the gym but attach your identity and self-worth to the gym– the day you don’t see gains anymore or hit a plateau – then your identity is CRUSHED.

Get used to being to being comfortable in your own skin. Stop following the crowd or trying to fit .

In as much as we are all striving to step out of our comfort zones – we all have a style and something unique within us.

E.g. if you deny yourself from everything you love or know – just so you can fit in with other people’s standards – you’re in for some future emptiness and regrets no matter what you accomplish.

Ditch the forced way of life and start authentically doing your thing!

This is how social media works too. Being your authentic self! Sharing stories. Sharing lessons you learned. Sharing from your real experience.

Find and create time to get in touch with your innermost being. Spend time alone exploring your thoughts, feelings, and desires. Pay attention to what makes you feel most alive.

This is how people change course and feel they’re making the right move. And also why some people stay the same for donkey years and hate themselves.

Ryan Holiday talked about how he always hated going to the office but he needed to do work – write, take client calls, etc.

Until he separated and eliminated the need to go to an office from doing big things which he felt called to – he never found peace.

I feel this is the stage I am right now.

In terms of showing up – consistency beats authenticity. Its key to nurturing your authentic self.

Nothing brings out your A-game than showing up authentically on a daily basis.

Do I like spending an hour or two trying to hit a topic? Nahh. But i feel its worth it to become better at my craft.

Believing in yourself is key to conquering self-doubt and fears necessary to living your authentic self.

Live a life that is in line with what you believe in and what feels right for you.

Here’s how a Coach friend, Tanner puts it when he faced opposition from family and friends starting a business:

When you start, NOBODY is going to care or support you USUALLY, that’s just how it is. You must get over it, you must accept that, and you must know this is a journey you must take on your own.

Sometimes people will tell me that I “have a strong mindset.” Honestly I don’t know if that’s true.

All I really do is write down what my goal is, reverse engineer what needs to be done and then block out anyone or anything that tells me no.

I fell in love with this phrase I after read “Choose Yourself” by James.

Sometimes, when I’m about to make an emotional decision or impress others – I ask myself “Am I choosing myself” here? If the answer is NO, then i have to take a rethink.

I can’t help but think of Greg in Essentialism leaving his about to deliver pregnant wife to attend an office meeting.

And someone reminded him and asked why he was away from his family at such crucial time. He had lost priorities by not choosing himself.

Your guts is also known as your second brain.

Learning to listen to your guts is the key to authentically express your true heart desires.

Trust your intuition and let it guide you towards the things that are truly important to you.

Authenticity works hand in hand with "hard-truth" and integrity.

Integrity is a flex in a world that is filled with fake-it-till-you-make-it lifestyles.

Start doing everything you wish to do like it were a CALLING.

If you give less than yourself at any point – you’re always going to wish you did better or feel less than you deserve.

Don't be afraid to be different or to stand up for what you believe in.